Since the arrival of our second child is soon approaching, my husband and I really been thinking a lot about how life is going to be totally different. Many questions and concerns have been flooding my mind. How am I going to give both the amount of attention they need? How am I going to multitask? And will we ever have clean clothes again? The truth is, I really have no idea and with my mild OCD about planning, I really feel unprepared. Is it even possible to be prepared?!
As far as preparing our 2 1/2 year old daughter, Emery, for the change I hope and pray we are taking the right steps. Here are some of the things we are doing and are planning on doing to help her with the transition change.
1. We talk about the baby constantly! There is not a day that goes by that we aren't talking about the baby. She is very familiar with his name and knows that he is going to come and see us very soon. We really try to incorporate that baby into most of our conversations.
2. We tell her how wonderful of a big sister she will be. I'm a big believer in encouragement. I feel like if she is told she will be a great big sis, then she will think it, then act upon it.
3. We tell her of ways that she's going to get to "help" mommy with the baby. She gets so excited when I tell her she can help me feed, wash and change the baby. Even at two I can already see her motherly instincts kicking in, it amazes me! We even go as far as practicing with a baby doll.
4. I'm going to involve her in the baby shower. I know that it may not seem like a big deal, but I want her to feel involved in every aspect of the baby festivities. I also plan on getting her a "big sister" gift to open up at the baby shower just to make her feel special.
5. This last tip, my good friend actually gave me and it made total sense. When Emery comes to visit us in the hospital for the first time I am going to have the baby in his bassinet instead of holding him. I didn't understand this concept at first but my friend said that Emery will less likely be territorial of me if she see's that he's in the bassinet and not in my arms.
All in all I know that all children are different and they are all going to react different to a new sibling. Since I am an only child this is all a learning process for me as well. I know I can't fully prepare Emery for her new brother but with these tips and much prayer I am hoping for a smooth transition.
If you have any ideas or even stories please feel free to share in the comment box below!
Blessings!
Leah